How can you tell a “good intuitive” from a “not so good” one?
As an analytical person, you may question whether there is such a phenomenon as an intuitive reader. How can you decide on this? You can start with a possibility that some people are more sensitive to the cues in our environment than others. For example, there are people who see more shades of a color than an average person; there are people with a perfect pitch, people who read facial expressions like a book, and people who have unusually fast physical reaction. If intuition is one’s ability to use his senses to perceive, interpret and use information that may generally go under the radar of an average person’s awareness, then, as with any skill, some people are probably better at it than others.
If you decide to reach out to an intuitive, utilizing this person’s particular skill of being able to get additional information for you that may not be available through traditional means, how can you tell a good intuitive from a not-so-good one? After all, there are no accredited universities that will tell you whether a particular person is a qualified intuitive. There is word of mouth, of course, but the quality of your friends’ readings with an intuitive is highly subject to interpretation.
Good intuitives will give you practical, actionable information that is helpful to you in determining what to do. Having trained with, worked with, and observed many intuitive readers over the past 15 years, I’ve developed a list that can help separate a “good intuitive” from a “not-so-good intuitive”. Even if you are generally skeptical about the intuition phenomenon, this guideline will help keep you grounded and clear as you are determining an intuitive’s credibility.
1. A good intuitive will not dispense advice, and will not tell you what to do.
If an intuitive without a medical degree is giving you a clinical diagnosis, or insists on certain investment strategies without having proper financial training, it is wise to stop working with this particular practitioner. What a good intuitive can offer instead of medical or financial advice is guidance regarding focusing your attention on certain areas. An intuitive may share insight on what a particular decision may feel like. It may sound something like this: “If you take the job in Option A, you will get many challenging projects that will help you grow, but you will be surrounded by people who are not interested in helping each other grow. Also, it looks like there are no leadership roles that would be opening in your department any time soon. If you take the job in Option B, it may feel less stimulating, but the peer group is much more supportive than in Option A, and through developing a strong personal network here, you will be able to take a leadership position in this organization within two years.” It is not the place of an intuitive to say that you should take Option A or Option B. Hopefully, with additional information that the intuitive provides, though, the decision will feel easier for you to make than simply comparing pros and cons for each option.
2. A good intuitive will give you information that is useful and usable.
For example, it is not useful to you if the intuitive can guess the names of your cousins – you already know the names of your cousins! Being able to guess (or even intuit) their names does not serve as proof of anything, and is not useful to you in any way. Instead, an intuitive should provide you with info that would make your life healthier, happier, and better. This information could include helpful connections that you can make, specific dates and geographic locations, and timelines. In addition, ask for specific details that you can use in order to recognize the opportunity that you’re looking for once it comes up.
3. A good intuitive will help you develop your own sense for what feels right to you, rather than deepen your dependency on him or her.
A mirror doesn’t tell you where to put your lipstick. It simply offers you a perspective from which you can clearly see for yourself what to do, a good intuitive should not tell you what to do, but rather, offer a clear reflection. If the intuitive makes you feel more empowered and capable by the end of the session, you are in good hands. If, on the other hand, at the end of the session you feel like you can’t make any decision for yourself, and will need to consult the intuitive before making any more, run the other way. You are the expert on your life. Just because you may need a fresh perspective every now and then doesn’t mean that you need constant advice, and doesn’t mean that the perspective of an intuitive is more accurate than your own. During a good reading, you are simply getting additional information.
4. A good intuitive will never insist on being right 100%, or give guarantees of an outcome.
Meteorologists base their work on solid science, and yet, they are often wrong. Have you ever met a meteorologist who will guarantee particular weather? I doubt it. Think about it: have you ever met an excellent doctor, lawyer, teacher, or any other honest professional who will guarantee a particular outcome 100%? This professional may as well have a track record of 100% for a particular outcome, but if he’s as good as you think, he’ll never guarantee at a 100% the next outcome. Why would you approach the results of an intuitive any differently?
5. A good intuitive will not ask you for information, or ask specific questions from which he can infer information.
When an intuitive is particularly chatty before or during the session, asking you a ton of detailed questions about your life, your family, your work and your dreams, this should be a red flag for you. Once an intuitive obtains all this information from you, it is easy for him to feed it right back to you during the reading. This will cause you to hear familiar themes and motives in the reading, making you feel like the intuitive has genuine insight into your life. The reason why you may approach an intuitive is to get information that you don’t already have, not to hear regurgitated information that you shared with the intuitive. Therefore, try to save the chit-chat for after the session, and ask questions without explaining the whole scenario or giving away your desired outcome.
Stay tuned for the next blog post, where I will share with you how to prepare for your intuitive reading: what questions to ask and not to ask, how to interpret information that you receive, and more.