When highly capable and resourceful people need to make a decision, they compile data and seek expert advice. The challenge is that data and expertise can’t always tell you what decision is best for you. Data doesn’t provide foresight, rubik1reflection, and understanding, and in difficult situations, these things can be even more important than knowledge. It is during those trying times that people reach out to intuitives. They hope to find certainty and comfort, get customized solutions, obtain information that is not available through traditional channels, and hope to become more prepared for the future.
This is a tall order, and intuitives are not always able to deliver. Scientists at top universities around the world are working to understand the full scope of people’s intuitive abilities. For now, here’s one perspective for looking at intuitives: just like some painters, musicians, athletes, designers are more skilled, talented and accomplished than others, and just like their gifts, talents, and skills may seem surreal to those in other fields, some intuitives are better than others. Good intuitives will give you practical, actionable information that you can take into consideration in addition to data that you obtain through conventional means.
You may or may not get what you came for, although there are some things that you can do on your end to help ensure a great reading. Here are some helpful strategies to get the most out of your session:
1. Come prepared.
Even if you decide to get a reading on a whim, take at least a few minutes to think about the situations that you want to create or resolve in your life. This will give you a frame for placing information that you will get from an intuitive. Let’s put this in perspective: when you seek the help of a reference librarian, you don’t ask for “a book on something interesting”, right? Similarly, if an intuitive, supposedly, can access all sorts of information, you would need to give her a precise target in order to get specific information relevant to your situation.
2. Prior to the session, write down your wish, phrasing it in as a positive affirmation, in a present tense.
For example: “I am in excellent health” (not “I don’t want to be sick anymore”), “I do interesting work that supports me” (not “I quit my horrible job”), or “I am in a loving relationship”. If you have more than one wish, don’t blend them together (i.e. “I live in California, with my perfect soulmate that I find there.”) Your wishes may contradict each other in ways that are not apparent to you, and if you mash the two together, the information that you get from the intuitive about your wishes may sound confusing rather than helpful. For example, the timing may be different for each part of the wish. IMPORTANT: you do NOT need to share your wish with the intuitive. Writing down your wish creates a clear target for the intuitive, and a “mental shelf” for you to file the information that you get during the reading, and this is all you need.
3. Ask specific questions, the answers to which can provide you with useful, actionable information.
Come prepared with a list of questions. You may be getting a lot of information during the reading, so having a list will help you keep the conversation focused on what you need. Also, your list will help the intuitive follow your attention, and your needs, rather than go off on all sorts of tangents. If an intuitive is able to guess the names of your cousins, it is not useful to you. Answering questions like “What should be my next step?”, “Who can help me?”, “What is the timeframe on this situation?” is exponentially more useful.
4. Ask questions without feeding information.
The less you share with your intuitive, the better. Otherwise, you run a risk of having the intuitive [consciously or subconsciously] feed back to you the information you already provided. If you want to talk and to be listened to, by all means talk to a friend, to a therapist, or to a life coach. Intuitives can certainly listen to you, but their unique job is to fetch information for you. Let them do it. Oversharing on your part and becoming too friendly may lead to the intuitive subconsciously to want to be “right”. She may pick up cues from your story and your body language, and tell you what you want to hear rather than what genuinely comes up. For example, a question “Is my boyfriend thinking of breaking up with me?” is a leading question, as it implies that there are problems in a relationship. Instead try questions like this: “What does our relationship needs at the moment? What does our relationship look like a year from now? Five years from now?”
Sometimes, information that you get from an intuitive can give you an instant “aha!”, and you will know exactly where to place this information. Quite often, though, it takes time for the information to settle in, and for you to understand how it applies to your life. So, take notes during the session, and go over them after a day or two, to see what insights come into light from it.
6. Hold off your feedback.
Allow the intuitive to give information to you as it comes up, and remember that you are under no obligation to provide feedback. Feedback includes facial expressions, body language such as nodding or shaking your head, as well as commends like “I know exactly what you are talking about!” or “This makes absolutely no sense to me.” Let the intuitive do his job by providing you with information, and later, you will use this information as you choose.
7. Stay in your business.
You may be curious to find out how someone’s marriage is doing, or what a certain person’s career aspirations are. A strong intuitive should be able to get this information for you. However, just because this information is theoretically accessible, doesn’t mean that it is a constructive idea to get this information. Getting into other people’s business will not help you create a happier life for yourself. Instead, try to focus on accessing useful information that can help you get the results that you want in your life.
8. Sleep on it.
Don’t feel like you need to decide right away what to do with the information that you received during the intuitive reading session. Sleep on it. While we sleep, our brain reorganizes information, bringing up from the brain’s “storage” to the surface information that is most relevant to your current challenges. Review your notes from the intuitive reading before you go to sleep, and remind yourself of what you are looking to create in your life. You may be surprised to wake up with original solutions that will help you create what you want in life.
Ultimately, you are the expert on your life, not an intuitive. It is up to you to decide, which bits of information from the session you want to keep, and which ones to toss. Intuitives can provide you with additional information, but they are not in control of your future. You shape your future as you go, and nothing set in stone. Intuition can simply offer additional information to help you feel better prepared for the decisions that you want to make.