By Carla Tara
Tantra teaches that love seeks expression through our bodies. Love is our essence, our Soul. We might have glimpses of our soul, however, we resist experiencing it fully. We do not trust love. We want to feel it, but we also are afraid of it. This creates the most basic struggle, our most essential tension.
Instead of practicing love, we have identified with our superficial self, our ego, whose survival depends on separation and defense. This resistance is the cause of our most essential tension.
Resisting who we are is difficult and creates pain. We often misinterpret our genuine need for feeling the force of love running through our body with a fast superficial release of tension.
Sex is often reduced to a means to release this tension and experience an often-short burst of pleasure, followed of depletion, that we misinterpret as relaxation. We are missing altogether our real need for merging with ourselves and/or another in love, which leaves us joyous, happy and more energetic even after hours of lovemaking.
With Tantra we use the Breath as a way to open up the blocks to love, just as we do when there is a kink in the hose. You might have experienced having to unkink a water hose to finish watering the yard.
Opening our breath is the key to untying our internal knots so our love can fully express itself. Without this opening we miss the deeper bliss of our sexuality. Conscious Breath is the most important way our bodies make love with God.
Physical/emotional blocks may have been formed by abuse anywhere on the scale from a disapproving look to verbal anger, to rape. Mental kinks are fantasies that take you away from the experiencing the moment and rob your presence from your lover. Using the Breath skillfully we can open the energy fully and actually enjoy its powerful flow for longer periods, making our bodies healthier and more youthful as they connect with the soul, our real essence.
Tantra invites us to practice love in a relaxed way. Experience it for yourself at Tantra to Health the Soul on June 28th.