On February 13, Robin Rose Bennett will present the webinar Herbal Love Medicine for Valentine’s Day. Visit the class page for more.
And then there’s sex, oh spicy sex! What a delicious gift we’ve received from Nature, a gift that encourages us to enjoy physical intimacy with one another and ourselves as we awaken our feelings of sensual pleasure and sexual delight (in whatever solitary acts, pairings or groupings fulfill us)!
Whatever one’s preferences and orientations are, true love always begins with loving oneself and sex is always part of the great mystery, the sacred mystery of life, death and rebirth. It is a mystery that can never be “solved” and yet most people enjoy exploring it again and again! For some people love and sex always go together, for other people, sometimes they go together and sometimes they don’t. And an orgasm is not one thing either, it can range from being a simple release like scratching an itch to acting as a catalyst that opens a person to physical, emotional, and spiritual healing, and even to experiences of cosmic consciousness.
There are famous foods such as oysters that are used to entice sexual sharing, and famous herbs like roses that are often used to declare love, but there is no universal consensus of what turns a person on. One person’s favorite erotic taste or smell could be another person’s turn-off. So when using food, herbs, oils and scents to enhance sexual experiences with a partner, you and your lover(s) need to communicate regarding what “works” for you to make sure it’s mutual. And communication is sexy, too.
Appealing to one’s erotic senses is a primary way of using plants in “love medicine.” Suggestively shaped foods like cucumbers and bananas, sensual scents like vanilla or jasmine, juicy peaches, dripping mangos, whipped cream, ripe red raspberries, and sweet sticky foods like honey all have their place in love medicine.
I favor using common, local plants for my herbal medicine, but I do go outside my local environs more than usual for herbal aphrodisiacs. I mean, really, chocolate (cacao) doesn’t grow here in the northeast and that is a prime aphrodisiac, at least for most women!
We humans are sensual animals and when it comes to sex the more all our senses are engaged, the better, including our sense of humor! Speaking of humor, check out this marvelous, award winning video series called Green Porno made by Isabella Rossellini. These videos provide some funny, sexual “edutainment,” and they are thought provoking, too. Smart, sexy and funny is a good combination!
There are numerous ways in which herbs can enhance sexuality and lovemaking in addition to awakening and appealing to the senses. They can also help by decreasing anxiety and inhibitions, relaxing physical tension, increasing circulation, and strengthening vitality.
In my webinar “Herbal Love Medicine for Valentine’s Day” on Feb. 9, I will share creative ways to use circulation-enhancing spices like cinnamon, heart healing herbs like roses, aphrodisiacs like hawthorn flowers, and stimulating herbs such as garlic, along with recipes that are easy to make and fun to use.
The herbs can be prepared in teas, wines, ointments and infused oils, as well as in sensual meals. We’ll be exploring these and more in the webinar, as well as making an herbal “passion honey” during. I’m looking forward to having a lot of fun with this webinar and to sharing the herbs that can spark your love and make you sparkle with pleasure. Herbal love medicine can heat you up for Valentine’s Day, or anytime!