Too often coaching is predictable, polite, and comfortable. When asked what they want more of, many clients say, “I want you to challenge me.”
Even people with a lot of confidence, who actively seek out challenges, can still have roaring inner critics. Their internal monologue tells them over and over again that they aren’t smart enough, powerful enough, or loveable enough.
Our role as coaches is to help clients transcend their current level of vibration or state of consciousness, raising the collective energy field.
How do you ramp up your coaching, find your bold voice and take a stand for your clients to reach higher than they think is possible?
Here are three ways to help people reclaim their power.
Replace sympathy with listening for the heart’s longing. What does your client really want, underneath it all? Unpack negative self-talk by reactivating the innate power of their yearning. Embrace the grieving process, explore deep-seated fear and help them reclaim their self-love. This helps people become the leader they’ve always wanted to be.
Wake them up to live life fully:
Stop fixing or saving your clients, and help them connect to their aliveness. Bring light to what they really value in their lives and relationships. Once connected to their values, challenge them to honor their top values more fully. Take a stand for your client’s well-being and request bold action.
Call out your own power:
Stop withholding or giving your power away; instead take the risk of losing the relationship for the sake of your client’s growth and development. Unleash your passion by offering support and challenge simultaneously. Open yourself up and express yourself vulnerably, going right to the heart of the matter. Hone your intuition and trust the power of your authentic voice.
As coaches, we strive to create supportive relationships by offering deep empathy and holding silence. We also cultivate challenging moments by requesting clients do something to shift their behavior or limiting beliefs. Awareness without action leads to “feel good” coaching or wallowing; whereas real learning takes place when people combine fresh awareness with bold action.
Helping clients reclaim their power requires a whole lot of courage. It helps to remember that edgy coaching serves both our clients’ and our own growth and development. As coaches, we need to step into our own power to help clients step into theirs.
Have you ever taken a big risk to help someone shift their viewpoint and access their personal power? Tell us about it in the comments below.
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Martha Lasley is the director of training at LeadershipthatWorks.com. She coaches leaders to develop compelling visions, improve interpersonal communications, bring spirit into team building, and develop a coaching culture. As a certified trainer for the Center for Nonviolent Communication, she works with visionaries and social activists. She has authored three books, Courageous Visions, Facilitating with Heart; and Coaching for Transformation.