How do you find your purpose? Stop Searching!
Here’s what I’ve learned: We’ve been searching in all of the wrong places. Purpose isn’t a “Title” like “Lawyer” or “Mom.” Purpose isn’t a “Passion” like “Tennis” or “Art.” And Purpose definitely doesn’t require us to quit our jobs to save a starving village somewhere in the world.
Rather, Purpose is the way in which we impact the world. It is the “How,” not the “What.” Rather than being a “Mom,” my cousin’s Purpose is “to instill confidence in children.” Rather than being a “Coach” or “Speaker” or “Author,” my Purpose is to empower others to live to their full potential of LIFE.
This distinction is important because it allows us the freedom to pursue this active aim in multiple ways – as a Mom, Spouse, Teacher, or Volunteer. It also allows us to create new ways to fulfill this purpose. And, it is forever fulfilling – as opposed to a “Title,” which may end when your kid turns 18 or you retire from your law firm.
Seeing your “Purpose” as active impact also allows us to craft our jobs so that they are more motivating. For instance, one of my clients is a Sales Manager who didn’t feel inspired by her product. As we uncovered her “Purpose” – “to lift others up,” we saw how she could fulfill her Purpose by lifting up her clients to look good to their bosses, lift up her team to feel wonderful about themselves, and lift up her superiors with more proactive communication.
Know that your Purpose is within you. It may be covered up by others’ expectations or social ideals, but it is within. So rather than “search,” start “uncovering.” Open your mind and relax your bodies so that you can see who you have always been. Uncover what juices you up, what message you are here to share, and how you can live that purpose as a career, a parent, a partner and in life. The time is now. What will happen if you don’t uncover your purpose? How will your life continue to struggle? What will your children know of your legacy? Begin sharing your gifts – you will brighten the world and feel fulfilled in return.