Empowered Self Relating: No Heavy Lifting Required
by Caryn Scotto d’Luzia
I really love showing folks that no heavy lifting is required—how stuckness and inner conflicts can just lift off as if they have wings through Empowered Self Relating. I sometimes forget how unexpected and surprising it is for people: to have fun and explore other aspects of themselves as a way to finding greater embodiment, empowerment, acceptance, and belonging.
But it’s absolutely true. Without short-changing or bypassing what is real, present, true, or authentic for anyone, this work partners with aspects of ourselves we usually dismiss such as our bodies, internal wisdom, our natural movement, and breathing rhythms so what has habitually been stuck can shift. The cognitive mind is given downtime while the rest of who we are is given space to show up. Journaling, verbal check-ins, and the rational side of us plays an important role in the integration phases where the whole self makes sense of the gifts that have been offered.
The approach is best when it is truly experiential. This means it must be experienced to truly grasp it. It must land in a person’s body. That’s why all Empowered Self Relating work starts with the experience of living inside a well-balanced nervous system.
The Rainstick Technique I developed is a simple tool that regulates a person’s nervous system in under a minute. It has helped everyday people and professionals all over the world shift to greater embodiment and inner life-affirming experiences in ways we are all wanting more of, such as, acceptance, connection, calm, presence, ease, groundedness, and empowerment.
Sometimes people are skeptical. How can this work? If it were so easy why are so many of us working so hard in the salt mines of personal growth, in the shadowlands of transformation?
Our first impulse is always to rely on what we already know. For example, when the mind has judgments or decades-old defeating beliefs, it will look to resolve the issues by driving around in the parking lot of its own negativity. Or, it will take the polar opposite approach that doesn’t work either–the put on a happy face alternative which feels fake because it is. It bypasses a person’s reality, emotions, the living experience of frustration, shame, and suffering.
Einstein is so relevant here. He said, “We can’t solve a problem with the same consciousness that created it.”
Empowered Self Relating’s approach brings a new understanding to the issues of inner disharmony. It knows that the nervous system, when it comes into balance, is neutral. It can provide a clear slate in which to transform what is stuck, bound up in shame, hidden away in self-judgement, or pushed and pulled through a tug of war of inner conflict.
When we stop partnering solely with the cognitive part of ourselves, which we can count on will give us the same judgments, beliefs, experiences as before, and begin to harness more resilient aspects of who we are, we gain traction and stop sinking into the quicksand of inner disharmony.
Safety, play, curiosity and exploration take over and what is life-affirming that has been inside of us waiting for the right conditions to emerge flowers with the renewal of our own inner spring.
Caryn Scotto d’Luzia is an innovative developer of techniques for personal growth. She has helped the general public, therapists, counselors and coaches transform their relationships with themselves regarding inhibitions, shame, trauma, sexuality, spirituality, and embodiment. Her system of embodied techniques has been adopted by schools and trauma/mental health professionals worldwide, and is used at disaster sites and post-terrorist attack locations.
Somatic Techniques to Improve Your Inner Life
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